"Politeness First – The Sunnah Way to Heal Hearts"

 

Time is a healer, yes — but only for wounds of the body.

Wounds of the heart, especially those inflicted by words, do not always heal.
They may be buried, overlooked, or even laughed off,
but sometimes, years later… one sentence still burns like it did on the first day.

💔 Words Have Weight – Use Them Wisely

Allah has gifted us with speech — a gift so powerful that even Jannah or Jahannam can result from a single word.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

“A servant may utter a word pleasing to Allah without considering it of any significance, but for which Allah raises him by several degrees. And a servant may utter a word displeasing to Allah without considering it of any significance, but for which he will be thrown into the Hellfire.”
(Bukhari & Muslim)

So yes, you may be right, and what you want to say might be valid,
but how you say it, matters more than what you say.

A bitter truth, when wrapped in compassion and wisdom, becomes medicine.
But a correct point, delivered with arrogance or mockery, becomes poison.

🕊 Politeness is Not Weakness — It’s the Sunnah of Strength

Our beloved Prophet ﷺ was the most polite, gentle, and merciful in speech,
even with enemies and hypocrites.

Allah commands in the Qur’an:

"And speak to people kindly."
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:83)

And about harsh speech, He warns:

"Had you been rude or harsh-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you."
(Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:159)

So dear brothers and sisters, if we truly wish to correct someone, resolve a conflict, or give feedback —
first check your tone, your intention, and your heart.

🧭 Self-Check Before Blame

Before pointing out someone’s mistakes, ask:

• Am I speaking from ego or from care?

• Would I accept this tone if it were used on me?

• Have I tried the Prophet’s ﷺ way — soft words, sincere duas, and calm advice?

Truth delivered without manners becomes a personal attack, not guidance.

🌿 Be Polite — And Watch Peace Grow

Politeness is not only good character —
It’s a purifier of your soul, a healer of hearts, and a door to peace in relationships.

When you speak gently:

• Your message lands better.

• Your own heart feels calm.

• And the other person is more likely to reflect than resist.

🤲 A Gentle Reminder to All of Us

Be polite. Be patient. Be prophetic in your speech.
Before complaining of others’ behaviour, check your own reflection in the mirror of adab.
You may find the key to peace was always in your own tongue.

Insha’Allah, when we mend our speech, many broken things will start healing —
relationships, misunderstandings, and even the pain in someone else’s heart.

Let us be the reason someone feels valued, not wounded.
Let us be the source of healing, not hurt.
That’s the true Sunnah way.