Nikah: A Sacred Covenant, Not Just a Ceremony
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In Islam, Nikah is not merely a social event or a romantic beginning. It is one of the most sacred and serious covenants established by Allah Himself, intended to build the foundation of a righteous family, strong society, and ultimately, a successful Ummah.
The husband and wife are not just partners for pleasure;
they are two vital pillars upon which the future
generation — the leaders, scholars, workers, and protectors of Islam —
are raised. Therefore, the purity, strength, and stability of
their relationship is a direct investment in the future of the Muslim
community.
Yet today, this profound institution is often treated lightly,
performed quickly without due seriousness.
Young men and women utter the blessed words of acceptance — "I
accept" — without fully understanding that these are not
just words of union, but words of responsibility,
accountability, and lifelong commitment before Allah, society, and
their future children.
Nikah is an oath — a contract of duties and obligations — not just a
license for companionship.
It includes:
·
The duty to respect, honor, and protect one
another.
·
The duty to raise children in the love and
obedience of Allah.
·
The duty to be patient and forgiving in hard
times.
·
The duty to sacrifice personal desires for the
greater good of the family.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
"The most complete of believers in faith is he who is best of
them in manners, and the best of you are those who are best to their
wives."
(📖 Tirmidhi, 1162)
Sadly, due to lack of preparation and understanding, divorce
has become widespread — often treated as a quick solution for minor
disagreements.
But divorce is not a casual matter in Islam. Allah says in the Qur'an:
"And if they decide on divorce — then indeed, Allah is Hearing
and Knowing."
(📖 Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:227)
Divorce rips apart families, scars hearts, and shatters
the lives of innocent children, leaving wounds that can last a
lifetime.
If Nikah had been entered into with full knowledge, respect, and consciousness
of its weight, many such tragedies could have been prevented.
A Proposal for a Healthier
Ummah
To restore the honor and seriousness of Nikah:
1. Before
Nikah, both boy and girl must read, understand, and agree
to a written document outlining their Islamic
responsibilities, duties, and rights.
2. This
document should be based directly on Qur'an and Sunnah,
covering matters such as:
o
Financial rights and obligations.
o
Emotional and physical support.
o
Mutual consultation and respect.
o
Raising children Islamically.
o
Conflict resolution with patience and seeking
help before considering separation.
3. Acceptance
of the responsibilities must be done consciously at the time
of Nikah, not just by saying "I accept him/her" but "I
accept the duties and rights Allah has ordained for us."
4. Education
seminars should be arranged in every Muslim community to teach
young men and women about the reality and weight of Nikah before they
marry.
5. Families
and scholars should focus not only on wedding arrangements but more
importantly on character building, communication skills, and Islamic
ethics for marital life.
Conclusion: Protecting Nikah
is Protecting the Future
A Nikah performed with ignorance and haste can lead to
broken homes.
A Nikah performed with knowledge and sincerity builds strong
families, healthy children, and an unshakeable Ummah.
Let us revive the true spirit of Nikah —
Not just as a ceremony to celebrate, but as a responsibility to
embrace.
Not just for personal happiness, but for the sake of Allah, the
society, and future generations.
May Allah guide us all to honor and protect the sacred bond of Nikah, and
may He make our homes gardens of mercy, love, and tranquility. Ameen. 🌸
"...And among His signs is this: that He created for you mates
from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has
placed between you love and mercy. Surely in that are signs for a people who
reflect."
(📖 Surah Ar-Rum, 30:21)
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